Anonymous said: i'm nathan i identify my self as a gay man i just turn 18 this year i'm from Jacksonville i'm really sorry if i waste your time but please hear me out i know i am a transman but sometimes i like to dress up in girl clothes i just really hate knowing that i will never have a male body i feel like a dyke even when i do dress up as a guy i'm not even in to woman why should i have to be force to feel this way i just want clothes that don't make me look like a dyke or feel like one please help
Nathan, you state that you identify as a gay man, and you’re not into women, so it sounds like you have a strong sense of self. And also, it’s pretty normal to still want to put on the kinds of clothes you’ve worn for your whole life - I still like to look at the handbag department sometimes, just because I appreciate them aesthetically.
I think with your strong sense of self, you will find that, with time, dressing in men’s clothes will make you feel less like a “dyke” and more like yourself because you will stop seeing yourself in the way you presume others do, and you will start to see yourself from within. I encourage occupying a transmasculine space by wearing the clothes you feel comfortable in without worrying about conforming to any prescriptive barrier. You will figure out what you need to be comfortable by giving it time.
There’s no guarantee that you’ll figure it out, of course, these are just my observations from my own experience and that of others, but I think that giving it some time and wearing what you like will help.