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Reacting to Gay Trans Guy Porn!

pugs-plugs-n-drugs:

A video that starts with a popular YouTuber struggling to say “Trans* Awareness Week” whilst holding back hysterical laughter was never going to be pleasant viewing, but the dysphoria triggering borderline mockery and misinformation spread through this video is beyond damaging to the trans community.

Many trans* men expressed their hurt in the comments section, and the dislikes began to pile up against the likes. Josh Rimer, the cisgender gay man in the video started to respond to hurt trans men’s comments saying that he “didn’t need their approval" and eventually, instead of listening to the hurt in the community, AGayCollab decided to remove the ability to comment or rate the video, leaving it up to keep spreading incorrect information to those who know little about the trans community.

Before this disabling of features, I messaged AGayCollab privately, requesting they remove the video, and offering total willingness to discuss with them the issues the video puts forward, and I was ignored.

Please, whether you are trans* yourself, or an ally, please sign this petition:

https://www.change.org/en-GB/petitions/agaycollab-remove-the-youtube-video-reacting-to-gay-trans-guy-porn#share

The petition is a peaceful one, not designed to cause a fight or raise hate against AGayCollab, or Josh or Jazmine who were in the video, all it asks is that the misinforming and triggering video is removed from YouTube. The petition will be shown to AGayCollab when it reaches a significant amount of signatures, to show that it isn’t just a few overly sensitive Trans* men that have a problem with the video, and that they must acknowledge the hurt and damage caused by the video.

If you are stealth you may use any alias to sign the petition, and can also select do NOT show my signature, so there will be no “paper trail” or risk of outing yourself, but your support will still make a difference.

*Also, please reblog to signal boost, as we cannot have this video removed without support from the community*

UPDATE: Josh Rimer has now reactivated these features, and said that Jazmine (the trans woman) in the video was the one to deactivate these features and deleted many users comments.

Josh Rimer is offering to add correct information in the description of the video, but this is simply not good enough, we cannot trust that everyone who watches the video will read the description, this video will still spread incorrect information, and on top of that will still trigger dysphoria!

So you had a huge outpouring of anger and you disabled and deleted comments, AGayCollab? Brilliant. Tons of people have asked you to remove the video, but you just can’t because OMG ALL THOSE VIEWS. THOSE ADDICTIVE VIEWS. PEOPLE SEEING MY FACE. EVEN IF THEY ARE HATING MY FACE.

Note to everyone breathing: when a ton of people politely or not-so-politely ask you to remove a video because it’s spreading misinformation, it takes two seconds to delete it. Save yourself from endless scorn. Maybe don’t be a dick.

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To the anonymous who was outed by his bf:

Hey, these are the famous gay bi-haters. They exist in every gay community, they are a minority, and they are a bit nuts. Remember: Either this guy has a serious vag-phobia (which is his own problem and has nothing to do with you. He might have had a dominant mother or whatever :D), or he has some other general problem. I had a gay coworker who was ranting about bisexuals like that- and about a year later he was in a serious relationship with a woman. Then there was this gay guy who had a problem with trans men - he was the only one, all the other guys were fine. The joke is, I met him again about 20 years later. And guess what- he was in a long term relationship with a trans guy :D I’m not making this stuff up! When you meet people like that you have to remember two things: they are the minority (my cis gay friends think they are nuts, too), and they have a serious internal problem, or they wouldn’t be so obsessed with the whole topic. But this has nothing to do with you. Don’t be defensive. Instead, go forward. Ask them questions that make *them* feel uncomfortable, carry the war into the enemy’s camp. Don’t “educate” these guys, just give them their own pill to swallow. They won’t learn from you, but you can make sure that they feel bad, not you. And don’t take them seriously! Chin up! :D

Gay Trans Guys

Anonymous said: Hi. I'm a gay Trans guy is it ok for me to post to your blog?

Yes of course!

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bonusholeboys:

We released the end of scene interview with Jade Phillips and @MrKeysXXX. Sebastian glows about his first scene with an ftm partner, and Jade shares thoughts on his first experience with edging and advice for trans men who want to work in porn. 

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/diriye-osman/femininity-in-men_b_5548685.html?utm_hp_ref=transgender

An interesting text about effeminacy in the gay community by a Somalian man.

Thanks, Anon23!

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Gay Trans Guys

Anonymous said: With my permission, my (cis) boyfriend outed me to an old friend of his (gay cis guy). The friend said I would never be a man until I got a penis, said "you bisexuals are sick" (my bf is bi/pan/queer) and said we were in a straight relationship. My bf unfriended this ass, but I can't help internalizing this and feeling shitty about myself. Advice on how not to beat myself up over this asshole? My bf is being sweet, but he's not trans and hasn't experienced this kind of hurt.

That really sucks, I’m sorry.

Unfortunately, some of these guys exist. I think more might think it internally but at least have the brains to keep it to themselves. But often they have this apologetic facial expression which I don’t think they realize is obvious.

Don’t beat yourself up because you are who you are, and that is an awesome person. Hey, at least you have a BF, I’ve been single for ages with occasional disappointing short-lived flings. But someone who actually called me their boyfriend in public? Not for a while. It sucks having to deal with this kind of rhetoric over and over while trying to date. I have supportive friends, but a supportive partner who finds me attractive would really help.

Don’t feel shitty about yourself because he’s the one with the problem. He’s boring, unfabulous, and myopic (ya know, on top of being transphobic, biphobic, and the body police) if he’s thinking and saying those things, and being of trans experience, you have a more evolved experience of gender and you should actually feel sorry for that guy, in his monochrome world, and the many opportunities he misses because of his short-sightedness.

As trans people, most of us face persecution and erasure of who we are as people, but we are blessed with an experience that cis people will never understand, a world with more colors and more nuance. My brain developed more plasticity as an adult by transitioning at 29. I can honestly say that the world I experience now is completely different, more beautiful, and more nuanced because of transition. I live in a world where I make fewer assumptions, and where I empathize with others easily, where I am attracted to more of the people I see day to day, that’s full of more interesting people than it was before. That is a blessing.

And if you are trans, you probably have this blessing too.

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Hey

 I was just wondering if there was any single ftm guys here in the New York/Long Island area that are interested in cis men?

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Gay Trans Guys

sickboysickgirl said: Wow so like im rly pre everything my friends know Im trans and are cool with pronouns but not family and I always get misgendered all the time. Anyway I've usually always gotten with ladies but lately Im just so attracted to men?? (Con..)

(.. cont) Im just worried cis boys won’t be okay with, well, me. So trans boys are like my weakness and wow I just feel so confused about my sexuality right now what the fuckkkkk

Don’t worry about it. The queer community is way better than the straight community. I don’t even care about cis guys who don’t identify as queer anymore tbh

But if you are worried, just comb through this blog. This blog has been 2 solid years of me posting and reblogging positive and affirming things 75% of the time and sharing terrible bullshit the other 20% that I get mad about. And 5% naked guys, cis and trans. Enjoy.

darning-socks:

((The ability to appreciate and evaluate human aesthetic is not determined by your sexuality))

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